Being a Positive Teacher
Relationship
The
teacher student relationship is very important for children. Children spend
approximately 5 to 7 hours a day with a teacher for almost 10 months. We need
to ask ourselves what is considered a good teacher. All of us have gone through
schooling, and if fortunate had a favourite teacher. A positive relationship
between the student and the teacher is difficult to establish, but can be found
for both individuals at either end. The qualities for a positive relationship
can vary to set a learning experience approachable and inviting the students to
learn.
A
teacher and student who have the qualities of good communications, respect in a
classroom, and show interest in teaching from the point of view of the teacher
and learning from a student will establish a positive relationship in the
classroom. But we need to focus on the relationship between the student and
teacher, involving a setting not just inside the four walls of a classroom but
to be extremely important for the student to gain a positive attitude for their
future as well.
CHILDINE
Trivandrum received sensitive information on three students being callously
punished in a prominent higher secondary school in Trivandrum. The case was
informed by one of the child’s mother. The girls were emotionally and
physically harassed by their teacher. Our team visited the school and met the
concerned students and teacher.
Reportedly,
the other day, one of the girls with her friends excused themselves from the
class and went to the toilet. This was during the second last hour of the day. And
soon the hour was over and the next one began shortly after five minutes. The
teacher designated for the next hour found that the three students were missing
from class. Upon inquiry, she found out that the three had left the classroom
for almost 20 minutes.
This
agitated the teacher and without asking for any reasons or explanations, she
beat them and scolded them instead of hearing them out. Our staff visited the
school and met both the teacher and the girls. It was found that the girl was
on Premenstrual syndrome (PMS). It was unfortunate that the lady teacher
did not have the courtesy or patience to ask of the matter. The team gave them
guidance and emotional support to settle the problem.
Communication is the key
The
communication between the student and the teacher serves as a connection
between the two, which provides a better atmosphere for a classroom
environment. Of course a teacher is not going to understand every problem for
every child in his or her classroom, but will acquire enough information for
those students who are struggling with specific issues. The more the teacher
connects or communicates with his or her students, the more likely they will be
able to help students learn at a high level and accomplish quickly.
Teacher
needs to understand that in many schools, especially in big cities like Trivandrum,
children come from different cultures and backgrounds. Understanding the family
back ground of the child will surely help to better assess the child. A child from a dysfunctional family might
have unruly behaviour due to lack of sufficient care from parent and neglect
issues and mental health problems.
The Distress Call
PMS
is a completely natural occurrence, although it can come at an inconvenient
time. If it starts while you are in class, you will want to remain calm and
request assistance from your teacher. Following a clear plan of action will put
you back in control. Try to wait until there is a break in the class discussion
or a transition between activities. Raise your hand or approach the teacher’s
desk and ask to visit the restroom. Do this as soon as you suspect that your
period is starting so you can avoid any staining. You may need to indicate that
you can't wait, as some schools limit bathroom breaks and have less number of
bathrooms.
Though
there are students who have a difficult time in school and David Thomas’ essay,
“The Mind of Man” states: “children who are yelled at feel rejected and
frightened because a teacher shouts at them”. The example above demonstrates
the feelings the child has towards the teacher leading to inhibiting the child
from learning. The reasons for children to be yelled at vary from teacher to
teacher, but shouting should not be the solution for children who find
education a difficult process or simply lack of learning experiences, but
sometimes teachers find yelling at the child as the only immediate solution.
End Note
Therefore,
how does a teacher hold a relationship that leads to effectively teaching the
children? The answer becomes clear when teachers interact with, and learn more
about their students. Our first educational experience, which takes place in
the primary years of our life, sets the principles for our future education.
Every school year an elementary teacher deals with new faces and new attitudes.
Some children find themselves lacking an interest in learning and others feel
playing and fooling around at school with friends is the happiest moment of
their life.
The
solution to inappropriate behaviour will not automatically get rid of the poor
attitude of these children. It is important to establish a positive
relationship. Teachers can establish a positive relationship with their
students by communicating with them and properly providing feedback to them.
Respect between teacher and student is important in feeling enthusiastic when
learning and teaching. Establishing a positive relationship with students will
encourage students to pursue education and be enthusiastic and active in
school.